Physically seducing women or "getting physical" as they say, is a very nerve-wracking experience for a lot of men. The best thing you can learn to do here is to use any physical "games" to ease your way into seducing the woman. For example palm reading, kissing games and any other playful exercises you know of or learn about can be applied here.
The reason is that women do not feel comfortable just launching straight into seduction, especially if they've only known the guy (you) for a short period of time. Basically, they're very conscious of being labelled cheap. This is known as the "slut complex." So by using games as your "entry," you give the girl an excuse to get physical with you. In her mind she's thinking, "Oh, we're only playing a game" or "He's only reading my palm, so its okay that he's touching me." Of course deep down, you BOTH know what's really going on. The girl just needs to "fool herself" into thinking it's all so innocent.
So anyway, you start with palm reading. Remember this should be done at a time when she's already having a good time and feeling relaxed with you. So at this stage, you ask the girl to give you her hands, you're going to do some palm reading. Make up some statements about her love life and psychological profile. It doesn't matter whether you know what the hell you're talking about. She'll still laugh and play along with every thing you're saying.
You can then tell her that you want to play a game, get her to close her eyes for whatever reason you come up with and just kiss her, maybe just a simple peck on the cheek at first and then watch closely how she reacts after that.
You see, you're simply escalating the physical contact bit by bit, all the time finding excuses like games to advance to more and more personal body parts. The key here is to go very slowly doing just a bit each time. If you've ever wondered how you could get rid of the awkward nervous feeling of going for the full kiss with a woman while on a date, well it's because you were thinking of going from no physical contact at all to full kiss just like that. Now you see why that is the wrong way to do it.
Start small, with hands, maybe even start kissing her hand, then move up to her elbow, then her shoulders, you get the drift of this now, I'm sure. At each stage you're watching for the feedback through her responses. Is she enjoying it? If yes, then keep going. If you do a particular thing, say you just kisses her on the lips, just a simple peck and she then pulls away from you suddenly, don't panic. What has happened is that suddenly her "slut complex" has just kicked in. She's probably just realised "what am I doing? I hardly know this guy. Even though I'm attracted to him, I don't want to go too far with him right now. I'll look cheap."
So what you do here, since you understand the psychology of what is happening, you stop touching her for a moment. Pretend nothing happened, stay calm, keep smiling and teasing her and talking. Then after a while, go back and start again from where you stopped. You will find that with each stop and start she gets to relax more and more until you ultimately "close the deal." |
